to je prema cijeloj recenici -- w/o je dio

valjda ima jos toga, mi rabimo za "imati pod kontrolom"

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The mystery of the relationship upper hand

....Yet despite its attempt to motivate, the book does implicitly touch on a very important topic in relationships, the topic of "upper hand."....
http://imprint.uwaterloo.ca/story.php?f=2&t=6558&i=&v=f&stor...



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Everyone who has experienced a breakup has endured the struggle for upper hand ? that synthetic status, more of a feeling of personal vindication that puts you in control of your emotions and leaves the other in mental shambles. It's a natural yet subconscious jockeying for position that occurs after an emotional dissolve of a relationship.

ovo je dobar dio:
Jealousy is the natural human emotion that guides "upper hand." If you are never jealous, then your ex will never hold upper hand on you. Often after breakups and during the jockeying for position, one might get over the other faster and start dating sooner, which causes the former (who is still hung up) to be sad and jealous at the fact the other is a) dating and b) over them so soon. In this case the person who is dating others achieves the upper hand.